As a certified whole-family sleep consultant, it PAINS me to type that out. Even more, it terrifies me to publicly post it. But here we are… I’ve got a confession to share… With all of this COVID-19 stress, I am barely sleeping.
I’ve helped over 400 families to get better sleep, and yet I was up from 11:15 pm to about 5:00 am last night and into this morning.
I was tossing and turning. I couldn’t get comfortable. My body hurts from being an at-home jungle gym for my 3 year old. My mind was racing about all of the unknown during this time. I was endlessly thinking about all of the “high risk” family members that we have.
The impact of barely sleeping
And today, I am exhausted. I woke up at 7:15 when I heard Lincoln talking from his crib. My first (and only) thought was “I can’t get up”, and not in an “I need a few more minutes” way. This was a deep exhaustion. And complete apathy for what the day would bring.
My husband is an essential employee at a gold mine, so he is still working. We are trying our very best to keep the house clean. Get his work uniform washed instantly. And practice our very best personal hygiene. But I know that without proper sleep, my immune system doesn’t stand a chance against this virus.
Like many of you, I consider myself a decent sleeper. Until the past month, I could count on one hand the number of nights that I struggle with sleep. But now, my sleepless nights are happening multiple times a week.
Why is this happening?
This morning, while my son was eating breakfast and my saint of a mom was reading to him over FaceTime, I decided to think about the nights of restlessness that I’ve been experiencing. The evenings that preceded the nights of barely sleeping all have one thing in common.
I’M NOT DOING WHAT I KNOW I NEED TO DO TO ALLOW MY BODY TO GET THE SLEEP IT NEEDS.
On the nights where I manage my screentime, walk through my bedtime routine, step away from social media and the news, make time to chat with my husband, do my bodyscan meditation, I sleep. Hard and fast and through the night.
Bye bye routine
But in the past few weeks, my routine is off. My daily schedule is flopped on it’s head. I’m working late into the night in order to get all my shit done. I don’t take “brain breaks” like I should. I’m captured by the posts on social media. My scrolling is OUT OF CONTROL. I’m not moving my body like I normally do. And I’m literally scraping by as a mom, business owner, wife, friend, and family member.
When my day is out of whack like it has been for weeks at this point, my nights are wonky, too. And when I don’t make time for the transition between GO GO GO and sleep, I sleep like garbage.
I am a certified sleep consultant, and even I am having a hard time right now.
Just like you, my stress levels are high.
Just like you, my productivity is shot.
Just like you, I’m having a tough time showing up for myself.
Just like you, I feel like I am failing at all of it.
Just like you, I’ve been arguing with my family.
Just like you, fear keeps creeping in.
And just like you, my sleep has been compromised.
Why are we barely sleeping?
First, I need you to understand that NOTHING HAS GONE WRONG if you aren’t sleeping well during this pandemic. In fact, biology is doing exactly what it should be doing.
When stress is high (which it is), cortisol levels are also high. Without getting too science-y on you, cortisol is a hormone produced by your body that acts like nature’s build-in alarm system.
If your smoke alarm, house alarm, car alarm or phone alarm were going off, would you be able to sleep?
Probably not. Me neither.
So… That tossing and turning at bedtime, long wake up at midnight, or inability to fall back to sleep at 4 am is YOUR BRAIN preventing YOUR BODY from resting.
So now what?
The bad news — if nothing changes, nothing changes. That means sleepless after sleepless night for each of us as long as we are living the life of COVID-19 with sheltering in place, quarantine schooling, working at home, and financial and job uncertainty.
I don’t know about you, but no matter how long this thing sticks around, I can’t hang like this.
I need a change, like… YESTERDAY.
The good news — I’ve got the tools to get us through this.
Maybe all of this seems simple to you, maybe it seems like rocket science, but either way, most of us need accountability and handholding. I know I do.
I’ve seen firsthand the power of sleep with clients all over the world. And now, it’s time that I show up for myself.
So I’ve got a plan.
I am going to be hosting a COMPLETELY FREE masterclass for struggling adult sleepers. I will be teaching you specific accessible-right-now and free strategies that will prevent all of this stress from stealing your sleep.
My promise to you
I am well aware that your days and nights are jam-packed with a bunch of stuff. You’ve got Zoom read-alongs, meetings, conference calls, family happy hours, an online workout, and all of the same household chores that you’ve always had. You’ve got kids home. You’ve got emails to respond to. You’ve got a list of groceries and no idea what they’ll have in stock.
With all that in mind… Here is my promise to you. This 60 minutes of your time will be worth it.
Wanna know how I can promise that? Because deep down inside, I am CREATING THIS CONTENT for me. And generously sharing it with you.
I am not going to waste my own time on something this big. I don’t have the capacity for that right now. I am barely hanging on.
I know this is worth it. I know sleep is worth it. I know I am worth it. I know my health is worth it. know my family is worth it. And I know, without a question in my mind, that YOU are worth it, too.
So, what do ya say? Will you join me in saying goodbye to the nights of barely sleeping?
Click here for details and registration confirmation. Can’t wait to see you in just a few days.